The luckiest generation

The first batch of baby boomers has been turning 60 since 2005, 60 years after the end of the Second World War. To my mind, the baby boomers—myself included—are the luckiest generation ever.

We were able to appreciate the world when it progressed at a much slower rate, and we are also able to adapt to the fast-moving world of today.

We are able to appreciate nature when we travel. We look out of trains at the scenery rather than focusing on our latest portable IT gadget, whatever it may be.

We appreciate the relaxed feeling that comes after exerting our physical body in vigorous exercise. We also like Wii, but do not use it to replace real exercise.

We enjoy life, and we also appreciate the virtue of hard work. While maintaining a good quality of life is essential to us, we also know the value of saving money in the bank. Statistics tell us that wealth accumulation is higher among baby boomers. We are also aware that the younger generations are more inclined to enjoy life, rather than being work-driven like their parents and grandparents.

We know about the joy of writing and receiving letters, but we also appreciate the instantaneous advantage of e-mail and are quite ready to use it or learn how to use it. We are definitely better at spelling.

Call it the bias of the older generations, but I do think we are better equipped to appreciate the arts and craftsmanship of older times. This is because we were brought up in a period when the world moved at a slower pace.

We have the best of both worlds—an older one and the current one—and I am grateful for that.

Having made these observations, I remind myself that, to better understand the younger generations, I must keep an open mind. As a researcher, I should know that humans are easily blinded by prior experiences and perceptions. I remind myself that I must not become so set in my ways that I am unable to see the virtues of generations other than mine.

For Reflections on Nursing Leadership (RNL), published by the Honor Society of Nursing, Sigma Theta Tau International.

You only know it when you've gone through it

We learn about sandwich generations from books and by talking with friends and patients, but unless you have become one of those being “sandwiched,” you don’t really know what it means. Being sandwiched means not only that you have to look after your older and younger blood relations; it also means constant worrying about your parents and your younger ones, be they nephews, nieces or your own children.

At the moment, my mother is frequently on my mind. She has fallen four times since June. This is worrisome, indeed, but there is nothing much I can do. She lives with my brother in Toronto. My brother has been taking good care of her, but she is getting older and frailer each year.

I didn’t realize there is a comparative advantage of living in a smaller apartment. (Again, like I said earlier, learning has to be experiential.) When my mother visited me in Hong Kong just a few months back, she remarked that it was good that my apartment is small. She could quickly find something nearby to hold onto when she felt dizzy or when her knees gave way.

I didn’t think much about growing old when I was younger. I didn’t worry about saving money for the future when I was decades away from retirement age. In fact, retirement, secured old age, and so on, were not words and phrases found in my vocabulary when I was young.

There is a growing trend for people to say that we need to teach young people about growing old and getting prepared when they are still young; we need to plan for a secure old age decades ahead of time. As a gero nurse, I am not so sure about this. People grow into their own age. Learning has to be experiential. And where is the fun when, say at age 20, you have to be mindful of what you will become at 65?

Would continually thinking about old age take away our drive to move forward, to explore the world, to dream big dreams? Would teaching our young and making them think of old age prematurely rid them of the innocence of a full and “invincible” life ahead? What joy will it bring if we have to calculate risks when we are still young? We need to be responsible for our lives but not to that extent. At least not for me.

For Reflections on Nursing Leadership (RNL), published by the Honor Society of Nursing, Sigma Theta Tau International.